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\nI used to believe that losing a child was the worst thing a mother could survive.<\/p>\n
\nI used to believe that losing a child was the worst thing a mother could survive.<\/p>\n
I was wrong.<\/p>\n
There were things people could say afterward that made the loss feel even more unbearable.<\/p>\n
I learned that beside two small coffins, with my four-year-old daughter holding on to my dress.<\/p>\n
My mother-in-law, Miriam, stood in front of me.<\/p>\n
She looked directly into my face and told me that God had taken my boys because He knew what kind of mother I was.<\/p>\n
For a second, I couldn’t understand the words.<\/p>\n
I heard her voice.<\/p>\n
I saw her mouth moving.<\/p>\n
But my mind refused to put the two together.<\/p>\n
Behind her were arrangements of white roses tied with pale blue ribbons.<\/p>\n
Small stuffed bears had been placed among the flowers.<\/p>\n
I kept looking at those bears because I couldn’t look at the coffins for very long.<\/p>\n
They were meant for my sons.<\/p>\n
Owen and Luke.<\/p>\n
Five months old.<\/p>\n
My babies.<\/p>\n
My daughter, Emma, leaned against my leg.<\/p>\n
Her tights had slipped down at one knee, and she was rubbing the soft edge of her dress between her fingers.<\/p>\n
She had been doing that all morning.<\/p>\n
Whenever she became frightened or confused, she rubbed the same piece of fabric.<\/p>\n
I knew that about her.<\/p>\n
I knew how she liked her milk, which songs made her laugh, and how she sometimes woke in the night just to check that I was nearby.<\/p>\n
I knew the ordinary things about my children.<\/p>\n
I had never imagined I would have to stand at their funeral and defend my right to be their mother.<\/p>\n
\u201cMommy, why are the grown-ups whispering?\u201d<\/p>\n
I bent toward her.<\/p>\n
\u201cThey’re sad, sweetheart.\u201d<\/p>\n
She looked across the room.<\/p>\n
Then she looked up at me again.<\/p>\n
I wished that answer had been enough.<\/p>\n
Across the chapel, my husband, Trevor, was speaking to a man from work.<\/p>\n
Someone had put a hand on his shoulder.<\/p>\n
Trevor looked exhausted, with dark circles beneath his eyes and a face that seemed older than it had eleven days earlier.<\/p>\n
I was exhausted too.<\/p>\n
Neither of us had slept properly since the boys died.<\/p>\n
Eleven days.<\/p>\n
That was all the time separating the family we had been from the family standing in that room.<\/p>\n
Before those eleven days, we had three children.<\/p>\n
Emma was our oldest.<\/p>\n
Owen and Luke were our twin boys.<\/p>\n
Owen liked to curl his fingers around mine during feeding.<\/p>\n
His whole hand would close around one finger as if he were trying to keep me there.<\/p>\n
Luke was different.<\/p>\n
He could cry through an entire afternoon, but if Emma sang the beginning of \u201cYou Are My Sunshine,\u201d he would grow quiet.<\/p>\n
She only knew the first two lines.<\/p>\n
She sang them again whenever he started fussing.<\/p>\n
Sometimes she sang them to Owen too, just in case.<\/p>\n
I had thought there would be years of those little moments.<\/p>\n
I had thought I would forget some of them as the children grew.<\/p>\n
Instead, I was afraid of forgetting anything.<\/p>\n
The boys’ names had been written on small cards beside the flowers.<\/p>\n
I read those names over and over.<\/p>\n
Owen.<\/p>\n
Luke.<\/p>\n
I knew the letters.<\/p>\n
I knew the names.<\/p>\n
I still couldn’t understand why they had been placed in a room where everyone was dressed in black.<\/p>\n
Miriam stepped closer to me.<\/p>\n
She had been watching me for several minutes.<\/p>\n
I knew that look.<\/p>\n
She used it whenever she believed I had failed some test she had never explained.<\/p>\n
\u201cI warned Trevor that those children needed a mother who knew how to look after them.\u201d<\/p>\n
I stared at her.<\/p>\n
My sister, Rachel, was standing near the chapel entrance, talking quietly with the funeral director.<\/p>\n
I wanted to call her.<\/p>\n
I wanted someone to come between Miriam and me before she said anything else.<\/p>\n
\u201cPlease don’t do this,\u201d I told her.<\/p>\n
Miriam ignored me.<\/p>\n
\u201cYou were always worn out. You were forever saying how difficult everything was.\u201d<\/p>\n
I remembered the conversation she meant.<\/p>\n
It had happened at her kitchen table months earlier.<\/p>\n
I had been tired from caring for Emma and the twins.<\/p>\n
I had admitted that sometimes I cried in the shower because it was the only place where nobody was calling for me.<\/p>\n
It had embarrassed me to say it.<\/p>\n
I had trusted her enough to believe she would understand.<\/p>\n
She had remembered every word.<\/p>\n
Now she was bringing them back while my sons lay in front of us.<\/p>\n
I felt something inside me harden.<\/p>\n
\u201cThat’s enough, Miriam.\u201d<\/p>\n
She tilted her head.<\/p>\n
I could see that she wasn’t finished.<\/p>\n
\u201cYou should have listened when people tried to help you.\u201d<\/p>\n
I took a breath.<\/p>\n
\u201cMove away from me.\u201d<\/p>\n
She struck me across the face.<\/p>\n
The sound seemed much louder than it should have in that quiet room.<\/p>\n
My head turned.<\/p>\n
For a moment, I couldn’t move.<\/p>\n
Then Emma screamed.<\/p>\n
I turned toward my daughter, and Miriam grabbed my hair.<\/p>\n
Pain spread across my scalp as she pulled.<\/p>\n
I tried to get away from her.<\/p>\n
The funeral director reached us before I could understand what was happening.<\/p>\n
He caught Miriam’s wrist and ordered her to release me.<\/p>\n
She resisted for a moment.<\/p>\n
Then her fingers loosened.<\/p>\n
Rachel rushed over and gathered Emma into her arms.<\/p>\n
Trevor appeared beside me.<\/p>\n
His hand closed around my upper arm.<\/p>\n
\u201cClara, settle down.\u201d<\/p>\n
I looked at him.<\/p>\n
I honestly thought I had misheard him.<\/p>\n
His mother had slapped me.<\/p>\n
She had pulled my hair in front of our children’s funeral guests.<\/p>\n
Our daughter was crying so hard she could barely breathe.<\/p>\n
And Trevor wanted me to settle down.<\/p>\n
\u201cMom, please sit over there,\u201d he told Miriam.<\/p>\n
He spoke as if she had become upset during an ordinary family disagreement.<\/p>\n
He didn’t ask whether I was hurt.<\/p>\n
He didn’t ask Emma what had frightened her.<\/p>\n
He just stood there, trying to make the room quiet again.<\/p>\n
I pulled my arm away from him.<\/p>\n
People were watching us.<\/p>\n
A woman offered me a chair.<\/p>\n
Someone near the back said they should call for assistance.<\/p>\n
The funeral director was still standing between Miriam and me.<\/p>\n
I heard every word, but none of it seemed close to me.<\/p>\n
I could only see Emma’s frightened face over Rachel’s shoulder.<\/p>\n
I had failed to protect my boys from whatever had happened to them.<\/p>\n
Now I couldn’t even keep their grandmother from hurting their mother at their funeral.<\/p>\n
The thought made me feel sick.<\/p>\n
Then Emma slipped out of Rachel’s arms.<\/p>\n
She didn’t run toward me.<\/p>\n
She walked a few steps toward Pastor Daniel, who was standing beside the first row of chairs.<\/p>\n
He had baptized her when she was a baby.<\/p>\n
Every Sunday, he let her choose which basket she wanted to carry during the children’s collection.<\/p>\n
She trusted him.<\/p>\n
He lowered himself until he was looking directly at her.<\/p>\n
\u201cWhat is it, Emma?\u201d<\/p>\n
She rubbed the hem of her dress.<\/p>\n
Then she glanced at Miriam.<\/p>\n
\u201cCan I tell you something Grandma said I must keep secret?\u201d<\/p>\n
The room seemed to change.<\/p>\n
Pastor Daniel didn’t look frightened, but his expression became serious.<\/p>\n
He kept his voice gentle.<\/p>\n
\u201cYes, sweetheart. You can tell me.\u201d<\/p>\n
Emma looked down at her hands.<\/p>\n
\u201cIt’s about the babies’ bottles.\u201d<\/p>\n
Miriam moved so quickly that her chair scraped against the floor.<\/p>\n
\u201cShe doesn’t know what she’s talking about.\u201d<\/p>\n
The funeral director stepped in front of her again.<\/p>\n
Pastor Daniel didn’t ask Emma to repeat herself in front of everyone.<\/p>\n
He looked toward Rachel.<\/p>\n
\u201cLet’s go somewhere quiet.\u201d<\/p>\n
Rachel took Emma’s hand.<\/p>\n
The three of them walked toward the small sitting room beside the chapel.<\/p>\n
I started after them.<\/p>\n
I needed to know what my daughter was trying to say.<\/p>\n
Behind me, Miriam spoke again.<\/p>\n
\u201cClara, that little girl invents things.\u201d<\/p>\n
I stopped.<\/p>\n
Not because I believed her.<\/p>\n
Because I remembered something.<\/p>\n
The night before my sons died, Miriam had offered to take over their feeding so I could sleep.<\/p>\n
She had told me to go upstairs.<\/p>\n
For once, she hadn’t criticized the way I held a bottle or the way I prepared the formula.<\/p>\n
She had simply said she would handle it.<\/p>\n
I had been grateful.<\/p>\n
I had thought she was finally trying to help me.<\/p>\n
Now, standing beside my children’s coffins, I couldn’t stop thinking about the bottles.<\/p>\n
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