The name appeared on a foundation application three weeks later.<\/p>\n
Barbara called me immediately.<\/p>\n
\u201cEmily.\u201d<\/p>\n
Her voice was different.<\/p>\n
\u201cWhat happened?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cI need you to come over.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cWhy?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cI received an application.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cFor the scholarship?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cYes.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cIs there a problem?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cI don't know.\u201d<\/p>\n
I heard paper moving.<\/p>\n
\u201cWhat name?\u201d<\/p>\n
She said it.<\/p>\n
I didn't recognize it.<\/p>\n
But Barbara did.<\/p>\n
I drove to her house that evening.<\/p>\n
She was sitting at the dining-room table with the application in front of her.<\/p>\n
Richard was beside her.<\/p>\n
Daniel had already arrived.<\/p>\n
Barbara looked pale.<\/p>\n
\u201cThis is her daughter's friend,\u201d Richard explained.<\/p>\n
I looked at the application.<\/p>\n
\u201cShe knew your daughter?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cYes.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cClosely?\u201d<\/p>\n
Barbara nodded.<\/p>\n
\u201cShe was with her the night she died.\u201d<\/p>\n
Silence filled the room.<\/p>\n
\u201cWhy is she applying now?\u201d<\/p>\n
Barbara shook her head.<\/p>\n
\u201cI don't know.\u201d<\/p>\n
The applicant had requested funding for an art program.<\/p>\n
Her portfolio was exceptional.<\/p>\n
But there was something else in the envelope.<\/p>\n
A letter.<\/p>\n
Barbara had not opened it.<\/p>\n
\u201cYou haven't read it?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cI\u2019m afraid.\u201d<\/p>\n
Daniel looked at her.<\/p>\n
\u201cMom.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cI know.\u201d<\/p>\n
I picked up the envelope.<\/p>\n
\u201cYou don't have to open it tonight.\u201d<\/p>\n
Barbara stared at it.<\/p>\n
\u201cI think I do.\u201d<\/p>\n
She opened it with trembling fingers.<\/p>\n
The letter was short.<\/p>\n
Her daughter had written it years earlier.<\/p>\n
Not directly to Barbara.<\/p>\n
To the friend.<\/p>\n
She had asked her to give it to Barbara if anything happened to her.<\/p>\n
Barbara read it once.<\/p>\n
Then again.<\/p>\n
Her hands began to shake.<\/p>\n
\u201cWhat does it say?\u201d Daniel asked.<\/p>\n
Barbara couldn't speak.<\/p>\n
She handed it to him.<\/p>\n
Daniel read silently.<\/p>\n
Then he passed it to me.<\/p>\n
The letter did not blame Barbara.<\/p>\n
That was the surprising part.<\/p>\n
Her daughter wrote that she had been angry.<\/p>\n
She had wanted her mother's approval.<\/p>\n
But she had never stopped loving her.<\/p>\n
At the end, she had written that she hoped one day Barbara would understand that she had never needed permission to become herself.<\/p>\n
Barbara covered her face.<\/p>\n
\u201cI didn't know.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cNo,\u201d Richard said gently.<\/p>\n
\u201cYou didn't.\u201d<\/p>\n
She cried.<\/p>\n
Not because the letter accused her.<\/p>\n
Because it didn't.<\/p>\n
The forgiveness was harder to bear.<\/p>\n
The applicant was invited to dinner.<\/p>\n
Her name was Natalie.<\/p>\n
She arrived nervous.<\/p>\n
Barbara stood when she entered.<\/p>\n
For several seconds, neither woman moved.<\/p>\n
Then Natalie said, \u201cYou look exactly the same.\u201d<\/p>\n
Barbara smiled sadly.<\/p>\n
\u201cI don't feel the same.\u201d<\/p>\n
Natalie sat.<\/p>\n
She explained that she had promised herself she would never contact Barbara.<\/p>\n
Until she saw the scholarship.<\/p>\n
\u201cIt was named after her.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cYes.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cI knew you'd changed.\u201d<\/p>\n
Barbara looked surprised.<\/p>\n
\u201cHow?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cBecause she would have wanted you to.\u201d<\/p>\n
The words struck Barbara deeply.<\/p>\n
Natalie explained that she had kept the letter for years.<\/p>\n
She hadn't known when the right moment would come.<\/p>\n
\u201cI think this is the right moment,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n
Barbara nodded.<\/p>\n
\u201cThank you.\u201d<\/p>\n
Natalie looked at me.<\/p>\n
\u201cYou're Emily.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cYes.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cShe talked about you.\u201d<\/p>\n
I froze.<\/p>\n
\u201cWhat?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cIn the letter.\u201d<\/p>\n
I looked at Barbara.<\/p>\n
She hadn't told me.<\/p>\n
Natalie smiled.<\/p>\n
\u201cShe mentioned that she hoped someday her mother would meet someone who would challenge her.\u201d<\/p>\n
Barbara laughed through tears.<\/p>\n
\u201cThat sounds like her.\u201d<\/p>\n
Natalie nodded.<\/p>\n
\u201cShe said you might be stubborn enough.\u201d<\/p>\n
I laughed.<\/p>\n
\u201cThat sounds accurate.\u201d<\/p>\n
The tension broke.<\/p>\n
We ate dinner.<\/p>\n
Natalie talked about the accident.<\/p>\n
Not the details.<\/p>\n
The aftermath.<\/p>\n
She described Barbara's daughter as fearless.<\/p>\n
Stubborn.<\/p>\n
Funny.<\/p>\n
Impatient.<\/p>\n
She sounded remarkably familiar.<\/p>\n
Barbara listened to every word.<\/p>\n
She didn't interrupt.<\/p>\n
She didn't defend herself.<\/p>\n
She simply listened.<\/p>\n
After dinner, Natalie gave Barbara a small sketchbook.<\/p>\n
\u201cShe carried this everywhere.\u201d<\/p>\n
Barbara held it carefully.<\/p>\n
Inside were drawings.<\/p>\n
Pages and pages of them.<\/p>\n
On the last page was a drawing of a woman standing in a garden.<\/p>\n
Underneath were three words.<\/p>\n
Someday, you'll understand.<\/p>\n
Barbara closed the book.<\/p>\n
\u201cI think I do now.\u201d<\/p>\n
Natalie smiled.<\/p>\n
\u201cI think she would be glad.\u201d<\/p>\n
After Natalie left, Barbara sat alone in the garden.<\/p>\n
I joined her.<\/p>\n
\u201cYou okay?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cNo.\u201d<\/p>\n
I sat beside her.<\/p>\n
\u201cBut I will be.\u201d<\/p>\n
She looked at me.<\/p>\n
\u201cShe was waiting for me to understand.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cMaybe.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cI spent years thinking she rejected me.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cMaybe she was simply waiting for you to hear her.\u201d<\/p>\n
Barbara nodded.<\/p>\n
\u201cI wish I'd listened sooner.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cSo do I.\u201d<\/p>\n
She smiled faintly.<\/p>\n
\u201cYou don't have to make everything sound better.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cI wasn't.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cI know.\u201d<\/p>\n
We sat quietly.<\/p>\n
Then Barbara said something unexpected.<\/p>\n
\u201cI used to think the worst thing that could happen was losing control.\u201d<\/p>\n
I looked at her.<\/p>\n
\u201cNow?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cNow I think the worst thing is believing you have control when you don't.\u201d<\/p>\n
I nodded.<\/p>\n
That was perhaps the most honest thing she had ever said.<\/p>\n
The scholarship continued.<\/p>\n
Natalie received funding.<\/p>\n
She became a successful artist.<\/p>\n
Barbara attended every exhibition she could.<\/p>\n
She kept the sketchbook.<\/p>\n
The cookbook remained on her kitchen shelf.<\/p>\n
Two reminders.<\/p>\n
One of the woman she had been.<\/p>\n
One of the daughter she had lost.<\/p>\n
And somehow, both became part of the woman she was becoming.<\/p>\n
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